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View from Venus: A man’s home is his cave

Randi Martin, wtop.com

WASHINGTON – “Man Cave” — even the word makes one want to pull out the Lysol.

House hunting families are adding this new buzz word to their list of wants and must haves. Not having the basement, or garage or spare room for a man and his stuff have shut down many a home search.

“It’s a man space,” says Jason Cameron, co-host of DIY network’s “Man Caves.” “Normally, the wife would not let him put the deer head up, or that favorite leather chair, or some of the trophies or the memorabilia – – some of the sports stuff — so this is the one space that he can have those things and enjoy them.”

Wow, a whole show dedicated to Man Caves! Really! This growing phenomenon is indeed a reality in most households.

In my house, my husband’s Man Cave has a sports and childhood nostalgia theme. Tiger Woods cereal boxes and decades old Redskin banners are surrounded by high school trophies and sand from the Dead Sea. There are also enough baseball caps to open a retail store, every possible souvenir from The Masters gift shop, local team bobbleheads, books and treasured autographs.

Cameron nails it in his explanation.

“We’re simple creatures,” he says. “We want our one flat screen, we want our comfortable chair and we want our kegerator.”

While doors are made to be closed, I have a growing need to clean that cave, and that is an ongoing battle. Not wanting the next bubonic plague to start out of my basement, I enter with cleaning products and rubber gloves, only to be turned away.

My husband says the room is clean enough, and if that is supposed to make me feel better, it doesn’t. Leftover food on the floor, empty bottles of beverages, dirty clothes and towels all contribute, I know, to a toxic wasteland festering in my basement. Who knows what’s growing down there or living down there — is that grounds for divorce?

“For men, if it looks clean, it’s good for most of us,” Cameron says.

Man Caves don’t have to be sports themed, although that is the most popular decor. Cameron says he was surprised at the request of one man who asked for a Star Trek-themed cave on his show.

“It was interesting to build a Captain’s chair that actually worked,” he says.

The chair had a built-in program that would respond to the Captain’s commands to turn the TV and lights on or off.

And how old was this man?

“He was in his later thirties,” Cameron says.

Editor’s Note: View from Venus is a blog by Randi Martin, who shares her thoughts on lifestyles and relationships.

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(Copyright 2013 by WTOP. All Rights Reserved.)

Don’t Settle for Student Loans to Pay for Online Education

Online college programs are becoming a more popular choice for prospective students, with one study finding that more than 6 million students enrolled in at least one online course in fall 2015. The popularity of these courses can be attributed in part to their flexibility with working adults' schedules, students' ability to progress more quickly through online programs and, oftentimes, cheaper tuition. [See 10 low-cost online bachelor's programs for out-of-state students.]Online degrees can be beneficial to many college students, but some studies have shown online learners complete their programs at lower rates than students at traditional brick-and-mortar campuses. Individuals with student loans but no degree comprise two-thirds of defaulted borrowers. Though these numbers are not encouraging, just like for traditional programs, there are ways to reduce how much you'll need to borrow for an online program to ensure you won't become one of these statistics. 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